It has been, in my experience, that when people are planning their wedding, flowers are always the last thing they think about. They will always reserve the hall and church first, then comes the dresses and tuxedos, then the photographer. Most people don’t leave a lot of money for flowers. By the time all the deposits are put down and the list of what everything else costs is put on paper, they are usually short of funds by the time that they come to me for flowers they want the cost down but they don’t want to skimp on the flowers. This always puts me in awkward position because I can’t change the cost of what flowers cost, so if you want all roses you are going to have to pay for all roses, I can’t charge you the price of carnations and give you roses. Brides and mothers of brides never seem to understand this.
They come to me with ideas of having huge bouquets, with flowers on every table, with flowers here and flowers there but get blind sided when I tell them the cost. People don’t realize how expensive flowers actually are, they think that flowers are the cheapest thing, which compared to everything else they probably are but they still will cost you. They get all disappointed when they realize they have to downgrade the sizes and sometimes even downgrade the flowers. Like getting roses instead of callas or hydrangeas or even orchids, or getting mixed wild flowers instead of roses. Or maybe one dozen instead of three dozen. It always puts me on the defense because they act like I am scamming them when I tell them their options. In my head though, I thinking, that they just spit out so much money for everything else, did they haggle those people like they are me? Probably not. In the shop where I work and even at home I have books with different styles of bouquets with different flowers and they are all priced out. It never fails, I will get asked if I could do this bouquet with three dozen roses for a cheaper price. Very nicely I respond by saying that I cannot, if they wanted to spend less than they get less.
I do feel bad, of course, I wish I could do a huge wedding and not charge them the full price, but if I did that I wouldn’t be in business anymore and neither would my shop. There is a reason that we charge what we charge. We have to pay a certain amount for the flowers and it is not just the flowers, its the ribbon, the tape, the pins, the greens, the containers and every other little thing that goes with the flowers, plus we have to pay ourselves for our time, doing flowers for a wedding is time consuming. It can be a whole day affair, then there is the whole next morning setting everything up and making sure everyone has the flowers that they need, when they need them. A lot goes into the preparing, making and setting up.
So just keep this in mind if you are going to be planning a wedding, after you have picked what hall you want to rent and the church for the ceremony, please save money for the flowers, this way you have more options and are more likely to get what you want.